Finding calm in the chaos

It’s Monday morning and I have a rare day off; one of those treasured days you book off with a smile on your face knowing that it means a three day weekend. But I’ve woken up feeling anxious about all the things I need to do, all the things I didn’t do at the weekend and the fact I really need to go for a run. But I don’t want to do any of those things. I want to light a candle, drink tea and laze in my pyjamas doing crochet. Why not do that, you might be thinking? To be fair, I probably will, but I’ll feel guilty with it. Why? Why on a day off would I feel guilty for not doing ‘life admin’ as I fondly refer to it?

It leads me on to the thought that we’re all so wired these days that even down time feels like  a thing to tick off our list. These could just be those silly voices in my head, but the more I read and the more I see the more I come to the conclusion that we’re all struggling with the same problem – finding calm in the chaos. I’m pretty sure technology has a lot to answer for here, but it’s also us and the lifestyles we lead.

So this post is for anyone finding it hard to fully relax, finding themselves exhausted by the end of the week, feeling like it’s all go go go and feeling that twinge of guilt when all they want to do is watch the X Factor and eat ice cream.

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These are my tips for finding calm in the chaos:

  1. Write it down. I write things down a lot and by writing it down there is a feeling about it becoming the paper’s piece of problem, not mine. I have a planner now and I will write those household tasks I need to do on a post-it note and stick it in next week’s page. Sometimes I feel anxious that I’ll forget to remember to do that thing at a later day, so this helps me.
  2. Think of someone you know who is pretty laid back. The danger with this one is comparison, but when I’m feeling like I have a million things to do I think of my boyfriend and how I’d never see him stress out that he didn’t cut the grass last week like he was supposed to. He would also be the first person to tell me I was being silly if I was stressed about my to-do list.
  3. Remember it’s just a day. It’s OK to have a day or a couple of days where you don’t want to do anything. In the grand scheme of things it’s nothing and sometimes you have to listen to your body and mind. At the weekend we got back from Winchester and I felt so overwhelmingly tired, oddly so, so I made a cup of tea, read a bit of a magazine and let myself nap. I felt a million times better for it and knew it was just what I needed; no point in fighting it.
  4. Be realistic about how much you can do. At the weekend I wrote a list and, looking back, it was completely unachievable. It was literally all the things I needed to do ever, all squeezed into a weekend. A weekend is a gap between the busy, yet I was ramming it with tasks. In my planner I have a checklist with 3-4 things a day; that’s it. No more. If the tasks fill up, it goes into next week. That’s really helped me keep perspective on how much I can realistically do in my free time.
  5. Treat yourself. Sometimes I think of housework as having a ‘power hour’ of busy, in which I’ll then reward myself afterwards with crafting or tea or an episode of The Good Wife. The act of having a treat feels good, but to then have it in a tidy house feels even better.
  6. The final one – which is definitely a work in progress – is switching off technology. I am so bad at this but I know 100% that if I turned my phone off or put it in another room I’d a) get a lot more done and b) feel better. Any ideas on achieving this would be much appreciated.

And breathe.

What works for you in finding calm? We all have our unique small victories so pop your comments below; I’m sure we could all help each other.

Leanne x

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8 Comments on Finding calm in the chaos

  1. Louise
    21/09/2015 at 12:31 pm (2 years ago)

    This is all so true! I can relate to every word that you’ve said here – I, too, have lists all over the shop and end up trying to do a million things at the weekend, but then getting stressed when I don’t feel in the mood to do them or if I run out of time. When you look back at the list you’ve written it sometimes helps to think about what tasks are ‘essential’ and which are ‘trivial’ – ie, if you didn’t do tasks A, B and C, what would happen? Would the world end? Or would you forget what they even were? Everything always seems like such a priority but often isn’t! I love your idea of sticking to 3/4 things a day – I might try that approach myself 🙂 x

    • Leanne Beale
      21/09/2015 at 2:17 pm (2 years ago)

      That’s a good idea Louise. I actually do that for work already, so maybe should try that technique for home life too! Let me know how you get on with the 3/4 things a day list, I hope it’s helpful xxx

  2. Anna
    21/09/2015 at 1:52 pm (2 years ago)

    Love this post Leanne. I’m definitely guilty of trying to make “time off” busier than normal. My latest routine is making Sunday my lazy day. I clean the house in an hour long rampage, cook a long dinner, and otherwise potter around with whatever I like. It’s such a relief! x

    • Leanne Beale
      21/09/2015 at 2:18 pm (2 years ago)

      Ah that sounds like a good idea! What happens when you’re busy on both days, do you have an action plan then? xxx

      • Anna
        21/09/2015 at 9:08 pm (2 years ago)

        When I’m busy both days I remind myself throughout the week that it’s OK if the house is a bit messier and some projects aren’t finished. I don’t remember where I heard it originally, but basically if something isn’t going to be on your obituary don’t worry too much about it. Clean house, ironed laundry, impeccable recycling, reading a book a week, etc aren’t top of the list when you think of it like that! xx

        • Leanne Beale
          22/09/2015 at 10:32 am (2 years ago)

          That’s a good way of thinking Anna, I’m going to take that onboard. 🙂 xx

  3. Elizabeth @ Rosalilium
    23/09/2015 at 1:25 pm (2 years ago)

    Yes! I’m really bad at relaxing or taking a break. I need this reminder to just step away sometimes.

    • Leanne Beale
      23/09/2015 at 3:58 pm (2 years ago)

      I think we all get caught up in our day to day that we forget to stop and take a break. Thanks for commenting, Elizabeth! xx